Sometimes “Giving Up” doesn’t have to be “Letting Go…”
Love, isn’t like those Disney fairy tales we watched when we we’re still kids. Where happily ever after exist and their we’re no problems.. But, I’m sure by now you come to realized that, based on your first love experiences. I know some of you has already lost there “First Love..” and has already felt there ”First Heartbreak..”
The feeling where you thought your world is crashing down..
Reminiscing all those Memories you shared…
All those Promises you made..
All those “Forever’s” you both shared with one another..
All comes sinking down the drain like it Never really Mattered at all..
Like it was never Important..
The Love you once shared with one another suddenly Fades away..
Where you always thought that you’ll always stay Together..
Because, It felt so Perfect like you and him/her we’re the happiest people in the world..
Having no Problems whatsoever..
All those Cuddling at cold nights..
Like both of you was the one only thing that Mattered..
All those Adventures you had with one another..
All those Wild things you never thought you’d both do..
Those Sleepless Nights you both spent talking on the phone like there was no tomorrow..
All those Plans you made for the Future..
Those Sweet Lines:
“Me & You against the world baby..? (Rings a bell..?)”
“It’s You & Only You..”
“Good Morning Beautiful..”
“I Love You! Forever & Always..”
But suddenly those Forever’s starts to change to just being the word Never..
“Never as if nothing ever happened.. That kind of Never”
STARTING OVER AGAIN:
is like not being Bitter but being better.. A Better which will hold no grudges of the past whatsoever.. A Better in which you’ll accept the Fact.. the Reality that the love you both had once is already gone forever.. PERIOD.
1.) Not all Relationships work.. maybe because both of you we’rent
just as compatible as you thought both of you we’re. Kinda like
Parallel lines.. to which your love for one another really didn’t meet
2.) Maybe because both of you we’rent really ready to be in a
Commitment yet, for instance it might not be you who is not ready
but it might be your lover. Face it, having a commitment can be
hard because your not thinking about your own life no more.. you’ll be
thinking about both of yours now. Every decision you’ll about make
can affect not only your life, but his/her life as well. Meaning one
wrong move can be different now. That’s a lot of pressure for to
someone who isn’t really prepared yet for a commitment.
3.) STARTING OVER AGAIN..It can be hard at first but once you get
the hang of it. You’ll be all brand new “Not like you used to be” but
4.) Your SINGLE now.. I know it’s still hard to accept that because
you got used to always having someone to talk too, a someone who
was always by your side, a someone who was like your Best Friend.
But that’s why there is a thing called being “SOCIAL..” Make
friends that can be good to you, Friends that will ease the pain..
And help you forget the bitter past. Surround yourself with things
that will keep him/her of your mind. Do all the things that you used
to do when you we’re still single. Relieve all those nights that your
were spending.. All those things that you never got the chance to
do when you we’re still in a relationship because he/she might not
approve it or will not like it. Now, you have the opportunity to do all the
things that you ever wanted. All the things the you used to when you
we’re still single. Its TIME.. To be HAPPY once again.
5.) Starting a New You..
Starting a New Chapter in your Book..
Starting a New Life..
Today I was faced with a tough decision of either seeking revenge/justice or taking a breath and walking away. Anger is such an easy feeling. To go after someone who has hurt you is usually the most natural instinct. To make them feel even an ounce of the pain they have made you feel seems like the greatest way to get over the hurt inside of you. To destroy them and take away something they love, for that moment brings you joy. You want to say as many hurtful things as possible along with getting the answers as to why they did what ever they did to hurt you. You also want to make them realize everything they’re losing by hurting you….
The thing is, all of that is temporary. All of those feelings are in the moment. Its the eye of the hurricane so to speak and causes the most damage if u let it run wild. Anger will not only destroy what hurt you but it will also destroy yourself. Those who claim their strength comes from shutting off their feelings are wrong. Those people let anger and hurt consume them. What they don’t realize is they’re actually weaker human beings for doing so. It takes strength to mourn and to fully take in the hurt and anger and to turn it into something positive. It takes strength and builds character to let a wound heal and scar without seeking revenge. I was once a woman who was hurt by someone I loved with all my heart and I did seek revenge. I made it my goal to destroy him and anything that meant something to him. Any chance I had to hurt him I did because I wanted him to feel a morsal of what he did to me. I spent over a year of my life doing this and although it gave me this temporary satisfaction, I gained nothing! I actually felt worse at the end and hated myself even more. I was no longer this great person I had claimed to be..I was just like him. I had so much anger in me. I lost who I once was. I was miserable and I was missing so much life because I was so consumed with darkness and rage. I couldn’t live that way, I didn’t want to live that way anymore and at that moment I let go.
Life is such a beautiful thing even with the hurt. My scars tell a story and I’d like to believe they make me brave for taking chances. I don’t regret love.. any of them because without the hurt they put me through I couldn’t be who I am today. Just like without losing the person that meant the most in my life I couldn’t appreciate those I still have and to treasure every moment possible as if it is my last. I could’ve done the easy thing today and said a bunch of things I didn’t really mean and done things to destroy someone but the fact is, I don’t want to hurt them. I don’t want to destroy them because I actually care. It is usually those we care about most, that when they hurt us we truly want to bury. I would rather this person remember me as I truly am than to let my inner demons portray me as someone I am not.
My passions in life come from the hurt I have been through. My art is an escape and a way for me to make beautiful things when I am feeling not so beautiful inside. My art makes others smile and brings a sense of light into their lives which in turn makes me feel like im helping them. My writing is my way of visualizing my thoughts and to keep my head from exploding. I want others to read my stories and know they’re not alone. My music is my escape when I can’t find my own words to express how I feel. I can scream someone else’s lyrics and have the comfort of knowing that they know how I feel. Running on trails is my way of feeling like I always have the option of getting away. I sing, I dance, I breathe in the fresh air of nature and all of the stress and hurt in life disappears and its just me running through nature. Passion for life is the greatest feeling in the world and helps destroy the anger. Today is just one day of your entire life…but the fact is, your life could end tomorrow so how important is that anger really?
Be beautiful, be strong, be passionate and let go..
The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you’ll see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. This is why marriages fail, why children are abandoned, why friendships don’t last. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they’re out of money or under pressure or hungry, for goodness’ sake. Love is something different. Love is choosing to serve someone and be with someone in spite of their filthy heart. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it’s seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship.
I look at you and I see my best friend. Your energy and your passion inspire me in ways that I never thought possible. Your inner beauty is so strong that I no longer fear being myself. I no longer fear at all. I never thought that I could find someone to love that would love me back unconditionally. And then I realized that, although we are often apart, you are always with me. You are my soul mate. You give me purpose when I feel I have none. Without you my soul would be empty, my heart broken, my being incomplete. I thank God every day that you were brought into my life. And I thank you for loving me.
Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around.
- You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.
- You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.
- When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement.
- They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make fool of yourself.
- Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.
- There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quite calmness when they are around.
- You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are.
- The things that seem insignificant to most people become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.
- Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again.
- Colours seem brighter and more brilliant.
- Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all.
- A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face.
- In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby.
- Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is special to you.
- You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon.
You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow you heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.
An hour, one hour, can change everything forever. An hour can save your life. An hour can change your life. Sometimes an hour is a gift we give ourselves. For some, an hour can mean almost nothing. For others, an hour makes all the difference in the world. But in the end, it’s still just an hour. One of many. Many more to come. Sixty minutes. Thirty-six hundred seconds. That’s it. Then it starts all over again. And who knows what the next hour might hold.
You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.
There is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of these lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable. The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else; they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really, want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else.
There’s nothing in the world like being young and in love. It gives you the power to do things you would never have had the courage to do otherwise. It inspires you to make yourself vulnerable, put your heart on the line…To give more than you can give. To speak heart-felt sentiments you thought only existed in old books and flowery poetry. And it can make you forget everything except love itself. That one thing that makes life worth living. The object of your affection…Inspired by love, we can move mountains, make great changes, do great things. But we can also become so blinded by it that we forget everything, everyone. Even ourselves